What is your game within the game?

“Game within the game” is an expression that comes from sports. Athletes are committed to improving as they play. This is different from practice. This is about choosing to focus on one aspect of their performance as they play their games. You have probably seen the same principle with your kids in soccer. In each [...]

Q&A with Jennifer Lehr, Author of ParentSpeak: Part II

Last week I introduced Jennifer Lehr, whose new book, ParentSpeak: What’s Wrong with How We Talk to Our Children —  And What to Say Instead, is both readable – you can pick it up and easily jump in anywhere – and its insights about how we speak to our children are both obvious and profound. I tend to be drawn [...]

Q&A with Jennifer Lehr, Author of ParentSpeak: Part I

I love Jennifer Lehr’s new book, ParentSpeak: What’s Wrong with How We Talk to Our Children —  And What to Say Instead, for many reasons, but the two that stand out are: it’s readable – you can pick it up and easily jump in anywhere – and the insights about how we speak to our children are both [...]

That was gracious. That was not.

I am often reminded that the same ideas we work with in organizational settings apply to family and friends—and often have more impact at home because, while work is important, it’s always family and friends first. Empathy is a key topic in the business world these days. “The evidence is clear that the most effective [...]

Hey, Mom, what can I help you with today?

Recently a friend was lamenting to me about how the younger generation does not seem as inclined to help out around the house. Upon reflection, I can see where that might be the case, especially since young people today are socially more connected and have access to so much technology for entertainment. Wouldn’t it be [...]

Do you make mistakes with your family members?

If so, you probably don’t need new skills—just a different perspective. Often the way we relate to our family members isn’t very inspiring. Why? Because we take them for granted. It’s human to take things for granted, but there is a cost in doing so. Whenever we take a person or relationship for granted, we [...]

June 29th is National Hug Day – Show Someone You Care

Physical contact is something that makes humans human. Whether it’s a pat on the back, a friendly handshake, or a big hug, this contact has always been a unique way for us to express our emotions and our connection to one another. And science has pointed out there’s a good reason for that—hugs stimulate the [...]

Mom! It’s not my first rodeo!

Recently, I had a conversation with 12-year-old Sarah, who was visiting. We were awaiting other guests when she told me, “My dad is going to be whispering in my ear to socialize more. I’m working on it, but I’m just not comfortable around people.” Later I had a chance to speak with Sarah’s father and [...]

Let’s read! It’s essential to your children’s success

“Children ultimately learn to love books because they are sharing [reading] with someone they love,” says Professor Barry Zuckerman of the Boston University School of Medicine’s Department of Pediatrics. He led a study on the benefits of reading to young children. “You can imagine if someone…came up with a widget that would stimulate all aspects [...]

Listening to Samuel and Noah

In workshops for organizations, I conduct a listening exercise with participants that changes the rules of conversation for about an hour. During this time, the people listening are not allowed to interrupt, ask questions, or make any comments. They are allowed to just listen—to devote all their attention to the other person and the conversation. It’s [...]